Calming a Scattered Mind

I usually write about emotions, but today I’m going to share a bit more of a practical practice, that of course has an effect on our emotional state :-)

If you are feeling like your brain is scattered, this share is for you.

When you’re stressed, and taking on too much, your brain has a difficult time focusing. Imagine that you have 100 tabs open, and you are trying to do all 100 things at the same time. You probably don’t have to look very deep into your imagination to see how this just wouldn’t work out well.

Making Mistakes Is Part of Being Human

Something that I have been thinking about a lot lately, is the lack of tolerance around making mistakes. Other people not allowing us to make mistakes, allowing ourselves, and even allowing other people to make mistakes without the shaming, judging and attacking.

Making mistakes is how we learn.
Making mistakes is how we grow.

We don’t know what we don’t know until we know it.

A Practice For Questioning Yourself Out of Negative Self-Talk Spiral

Question it ALL because your thoughts are not absolutes and are only true if you believe them to be true
On the days where my self-talk isn’t kind, it is sometimes easier to pivot and question the thoughts I am having, than it is to change it to positive self-talk. Especially when I am in a negative self-talk spiral. When we are in this spiral, it is hard to believe that anything else could be true, so the switch over to something more positive may not feel good in that moment.

The questioning process is like pushing the pause button long enough for it to stop gaining momentum.

25 Self Reflection Questions

When you have more questions than answers, go within.

I’m a really big believer in taking some time to sit down and reflect on the deeper questions I have for my life. Consider it giving yourself a personal timeout. It helps me to see what I need, what I want to let go because it no longer aligns with my current life, what I have learned, what I have unlearned, and how I have changed or need/want to change.

Answer these 25 questions to help you gain clarity and awareness.

Strengthening Your Self Worth

The world is a better place because you are in it.

The older I get, and the more I learn and grow within myself, the more I fully know and understand that my (your) self-worth is an inside job. It was never up to someone else to validate our worthiness, because if we don’t believe it within, it won’t matter what anyone says to try and convince us.

The Waiting Room

It is very normal to feel impatient when things are not coming in the timing you hoped for.

Like you, I want everything right NOW. When it doesn't come in our timing, or it feels like it is taking too long, emotional discomfort starts to take over.  

When we are in this discomfort, we are consistently being reminded of how much we have to learn, how much we wished we would already know, how much we don’t want to say or do the wrong thing, and the overwhelming feeling of what it will take to heal. This is when you are going to want to give up. Here is what I want you to know...

Making a Decision That Might Hurt Someone You Care For

Why it is important to not sacrifice your own happiness for others.

It can be very difficult to make a decision for yourself that hurts someone else, or causes them emotional discomfort.

If you have been struggling to make a decision because it might hurt someone else, this share is for you.

Exploring The Emotions of Grief

When you allow yourself to grieve, you are also allowing healing to take place.

In this share I am going to go through some of the emotions that you may experience when you are grieving. This is important because I believe that there is something powerful when we can claim what we are feeling, instead of it claiming us.

What Is Behind The Anger?

Exploring the emotion of anger so you can control it, instead of it controlling you.

In this share, you will will learn how to reflect on what is beneath the emotion, so you can react, behave, respond, or act in a way that is supportive towards yourself and to others. The practices inside will help you to feel the anger, without it controlling you.

Turning Breakdowns Into Breakthroughs

Is it possible this could be happening for me, not just to me?

Jospeh Campbell writes: “The dark night of the soul comes just before revelation. When everything is lost and all seems darkness, then comes the new life and all that is needed.”

While reading that, I realized I had my own recent revelation. Revelations to me are lessons learned from experience and I always seem to receive exactly what I need in the moment that I think all hope is lost.

Therapeutic Journaling

A practice where we dive deep into an experience we are in and how it is affecting us emotionally, mentally, even physically.

In this share we are going to explore therapeutic journaling, or what I like to call, self-talk. It is a practice where we dive deep into an experience we are in and how it is affecting us emotionally, mentally, even physically.

Ways Your Childhood Upbringing Can Impact You As An Adult

What can happen when one or more of your basic needs isn't met in childhood.

My husband and I had friends over one afternoon and we got into a discussion about how the way we grew up impacted who we are and how we behave in certain situations today.

This conversation was  a great reminder that no matter what your life was like growing up, it does inform who you are today. Good or bad, it made you, YOU.

From Worried Thoughts To Peace

A practice for when your thoughts turn to worry and future-tripping.

I don’t know about you, but sometimes, okay more than sometimes, I catch myself in a spiral of future-tripping, which is usually triggered by worry. One worried thought creates another worried thought on top of another…and now I’m down the rabbit hole.

I have had to learn many tools to help me when I’m in this spiral, and the one I share here has been incredibly supportive.

Is Fear Your Decision Maker?

How do you know when it is actually time to let something go, or when fear is being your decision maker?

In this share, I'm talking about fear, making decisions, how to know when it is time to let something go vs. it being fear, and something new I learned about myself.

Becoming a Better Listener

Are you listening to understand, or do you just want to be right?

Listening, I mean really listening, to the core of what someone is saying (and feeling, and experiencing), can be a struggle. Not just for you, or for me, but for many of us.

Listening to understand gives you an insight into why someone believes what they believe, feels what they feel, or thinks what they think.

Have The Meaningful Conversations, Even When It Is Difficult

Don’t allow yourself, or let other people fill in the blanks.

If you are waiting for people to fill in the blanks to what you’re not saying, you will always feel like your feelings and needs are not being met by that person. And if you are not saying what you feel because you are afraid to hurt someone, odds are, they are feeling that too.

In this share I talk about ways you can begin to practice having difficult conversations.